13 June 2007

The Importance of Dad

I was listening to the Sean Hannity show while in the squad car tonight (don't tell the inspectors!). He had a fatherhood specialist on and I was riveted by what he had to say.

Hannity's website doesn't have who the guest was so I'll just wing it.

The guest was discussing the importance of fathers. He threw out some interesting statistics :

* Girls without a father in their lives are 3 times more likely to have sex by the age of 15.

* Fathers who live with their children are more likely to have a close, enduring relationship with their children than those who do not. The best predictor of father presence is marital status. Compared to children born within marriage, children born to cohabiting parents are three times as likely to experience father absence, and children born to unmarried, non-cohabiting parents are four times as likely to live in a father-absent home.

* About 40% of children in father-absent homes have not seen their father at all during the past year; 26 percent of absent fathers live in a different state than their children; and 50 percent of children living absent their father have never set foot in their father's home.

* Children who live absent their biological fathers are, on average, at least two to three times more likely to be poor, to use drugs, to experience educational, health, emotional and behavioral problems, to be victims of child abuse, and to engage in criminal behavior than their peers who live with their married, biological (or adoptive) parents.

* From 1960 to 1995, the proportion of children living in single-parent homes tripled, from 9 percent to 27 percent, and the proportion of children living with married parents declined. However, from 1995 to 2000, the proportion of children living in single-parent homes slightly declined, while the proportion of children living with two married parents remained stable.

* Children with involved, loving fathers are significantly more likely to do well in school, have healthy self-esteem, exhibit empathy and pro-social behavior, and avoid high-risk behaviors such as drug use, truancy, and criminal activity compared to children who have uninvolved fathers.

Since the 60's the feminists have tried to tip the power point in our culture by disempowering men. Gloria Steinem's famous phrase "A woman needs a Man like a fish needs a bicycle" became the standard for media portrayal of the male role in the family. Gone were the days of "Father knows best" and "Cosby" - fathers were (are) seen on TV as weak, shallow, easily manipulated, stupid and hen-pecked. While males were being emasculated, women were (are) being shown as smart, witty, in control, smooth and powerful.

Back in the 50's and 60's most US households were a married couple raising their 2.5 kids. Now we're seeing a shift away from that. Single parent households are becoming the norm, not the exception. And with it, all the attendant headaches are coming along for the ride.

The biggest reason? Liberalism.

When Lydon Johnson created his big "Great Society" welfare programs, he inadvertently sent the message "you don't need a father because the government will feed you, pay your rent and help you with your bills." And if you kids need discipline? The government can take care of that too - it's called Jail.

We as the police see the toxic effects that missing dads have on our society. Increased crime, drug use, violence and abandonment could be minimized if dads just stepped up and became involved in their kid's lives.

So for all you Fathers out there that stood by your wife and kids through thick and thin and offered them love and nurturance - I salute you! You have done more good for our country and our society than will ever be recognized.

Have a wonderful Father's Day and give your Dad a big hug for all the hard work.

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